Special Needs


The Reflex To Protect Meets The Need To Emboldened: Pushing the Envelope of Adult Employment

  At many points while raising children, we come to crossroads where directional choice is complicated, when a parent’s impulse to protect their child collides with the necessity of launching their offspring into adulthood. Parents of children with disabilities have a particular challenge at these crossroads because by definition these children are more vulnerable than… Read the Rest Of This Article

Pixar’s Inside Out and The Special Needs Universe

July 4th weekend I took myself to see Pixar’s Inside Out, the animated film about, of all things, how feelings work. (For a non-special needs oriented take on this subject, see my post on The Couples ToolKit.) The main characters are Joy, Sadness, Anger, Disgust and Fear. Joy is Amy Poehler – funny fun and… Read the Rest Of This Article

The Power of Meaningful Employment – 1/29/15

Our twenty-five-year-old special needs daughter returned to her parents’ home to spend the latest N.E. snowstorm. We have a generator. Two days of cooking, watching The Big Bang Theory and The Fault in Our Stars and generally hanging out went swimmingly. The bedtime hour and wake up call on the last night and following morning… Read the Rest Of This Article

Unbridled Joy, Some Ick And A Great Cocktail: 12-17-13

Twenty-Four and She’s So Much More: Three months have passed since I posted on our daughter’s adult life. And the reason rests in the paws of our new puppy Tillie, whose own developmental stages have usurped much of my writing time with her walking, leaping, nipping and general mayhem-ing. Across town our daughter is developing… Read the Rest Of This Article

Life Is A Horse Show: 9-19-13

Catching Up: Our daughter’s life is streaming live with new peace and purpose. Just in the last week, patches of the quilt that I have dreamed of for years are now in place. The first, that she would find a venue to inspire her to resume creating the amazing collages which I used as illustrations… Read the Rest Of This Article

A Small Adjustment With Big Implications: 8-8-13

Who Will Teach Her Now? In a June 2011 post I wrote of my concern that our daughter, having aged out of her school system at 21 years old, would no longer benefit from an academic setting. The areas of significant challenge, time, money and numbers would languish on the vine, leaving that group of… Read the Rest Of This Article

Riverview School Two Years Hence: 6-27-13

A Place Where Everyone Knows Your Name: June 14 our daughter and her parents sallied up to Cape Cod to attend Riverview School’s Fifteenth Annual Gala under the castle-like shimmering white tent on the campus in East Sandwich. Except for one sad and brief visit in September of 2011 to attend a memorial for a… Read the Rest Of This Article

Trophy Gal, A Note of Hope for Parents & What Friends Don’t Know: 5-23-13

Speeding Through May: This has been a glorious month for our daughter, and there is still another week. She was awarded the “Adult Rider of the Year” award at the 32nd Annual Pegasus Horse Show which was presented by her idol equestrian Georgina Bloomberg, a surprise that nearly blew her helmet off. In early May… Read the Rest Of This Article

Author Event: Outside My Comfort Zone Again

The Book Event: I have been invited by our town’s library, The Mark Twain Library, in Redding, Connecticut to present an “author event” and signing next week. This is a new kink to my “parenting adult special needs life” that stretches me a bit outside my comfort zone. But as all parents know and special… Read the Rest Of This Article

Special Needs Elf & A Fire Disaster Averted: 12-6-12

An Ashy Pall: My daughter allocated Monday as her Christmas shopping with mom day. I showed up at the apartment almost on time and saw that the staff mini-van had not returned from dropping the apartment-mate at the DSO. Since I am on the lease and have the key, I entered the apartment. Just as… Read the Rest Of This Article