The Coupledom


News, and a Special Opportunity for My Readers

Dear Readers, as you well know, it has always been my intention to use my journey as a parent whose special needs child was “aging out of the system” to help others who were not yet on that path, or even as perspective for those who were. This was primarily because there are few, if… Read the Rest Of This Article

Full Circle: 10-16-11

Off To Take Her Home: We just had a marvelous evening. Our daughter and son spent a cozy Fall dinner in our home with two of our dear friends whom they have not been with since they were little children. The wife was a classmate of mine in graduate school and remains as dear to… Read the Rest Of This Article

Sequined Skirt and Silver Shimmer Shirt: 10-08-11

Bundled Day: Today we are bundling Pegasus with mall shopping and Yom Kippur break-fast in NYC. So far, so good. After meeting at riding, my daughter and I went on a mission to purchase party shoes (no small challenge as she needs flats with straps), jeans and cords (equally challenging as she wears petites which… Read the Rest Of This Article

Happy New Year: 9-29-11

Candy Apples, Challah Dipped In Honey: Today’s post is not about our daughter, but about that half of her heritage for whom today is one of the holiest days of the year, Rosh Hashanah. The Jewish New Year.  Shana Tova. Sweetness in the New Year. ©Jill Edelman, M.S.W.,L.C.S.W. 2011

Flying Home On A Donut: 9-24-11

We Made It: I missed an exit leaving the Cape, no surprise as I was super sleepy. Sharing a bed with our daughter in an Inn she disliked (my mistake) left me super drained and groggy. Probably stirred up by the prospect of the following morning’s memorial service and reunion with former classmates, teachers, and… Read the Rest Of This Article

She’s Back: 8-29-11

The Empty Red Couch: Irene brought our daughter home. Irene, the hurricane of 2011 who will go down in East Coast history as a late summer mini-series of dramatic proportions, exerted her force on many a family unit. In our case, she imposed significant bonding momentum in our circle of immediate family and neighborhood friends…. Read the Rest Of This Article

A Date And A Cake: 8-11-11

Celebrating Again: A dear friend and colleague who lives three doors down from our daughter’s apartment visited last evening with her daughter, a cake and a splendid bouquet of yellow flowers. My husband and I escorted the ladies out to a local restaurant where our daughter regaled them with her take on Planet of Apes,… Read the Rest Of This Article

Crazy Quilt, 4-2-11

The actual date of the allocation of funding for our daughter’s new life remains elusive due to the labyrinthine nature of bureaucracy. Slated as a “priority age out”, that is, 21 years old, and having lived outside the parental home, with a sufficient level of need, our daughter is in a good position to receive… Read the Rest Of This Article

Parenting Adult Special Needs: One Day At A Time

Your Child Is Coming Back To A Town Near You — Or  Maybe They Never Left: Our daughter is graduating this June from a special education boarding school and returning to her home state of Connecticut after five years living with peers in a dormitory setting where all needs were met: academic, social and vocational…. Read the Rest Of This Article